A Love Letter to Women Who Overgive

It’s exhausting isn’t it?

To do so much for others that you forget to do the simplest of things for yourself.

Did you forget to shave? Do your nails? Wash your face?

When life is filled with fires to put out, how do you find the time for such trivial things?

You expend your energy running from one fire to the next, one task to the next, one friend in crisis to the next.

Never fully at rest.

Waiting. Just waiting to be called on again.

You hate it, it’s tiresome and there never seems to be enough time for you

Yet… there’s a part of you. Albeit a small unconscious part of you… that revels in this.

it’s thrilling, isn't it?

Being needed.

It fills a hole in the part of us that is begging to be wanted. To be heard. To be loved.

If we never fill this hole for ourselves however, this part will run the show. 

Reaching, grasping for more.

More love, more external attention, more, more, more!

Until you wind up exactly where you are right now.

Tired, empty, with nothing left to give.

Resting up for the next time you’re needed.

Only to leave yourself again at the next sign of a fire. 

Is this how you want to live?

What if there was another way?

One in which you give from OVERFLOW.

Envision a cup filled to the brim with an extraordinary outpouring of love, so boundless that its enchanting waters flow abundantly in every possible direction.

Immersing your loved ones in a love that is profound and more radiant than you ever imagined. 

That’s the type of love I want for you.

For all of us. 

And it GETS TO BE THIS GOOD.

We all get to win.

This martyrdom that I see amongst my fellow women and clients does not have to be so.

You are creating this for yourself because it was how you were taught to love.

Yet, it is not the only way.

The part of ourselves that self-sacrifices for love is simply urging us to love ourselves more profoundly and tenderly.

And if we were to truly listen, I mean TRULY listen to ourselves,

Then we would hear that deep, penetrating emptiness from within

And everything we see externally is just a reflection of how we feel inside.

In need of some serious tenderness, love, and attention. 

Once you do this, I mean truly do this,

Giving yourself the time and attention you give to others…

You will find that in time, you will be able to tap into a boundless type of love from within you that has absolutely no limits.

This type of unconditional love is different because it does not ask for anything in return. And people feel that.

It is no longer the type of love that comes from need, that hopes to fill something inside of you. NO

It is a type of love that just gives abundantly because you are already filled. 

It is pure because it does not ask for anything in return.

So listen.

Listen tenderly

Listen without intent to change or dull.

Listen and love on yourself.

Give to yourself first and foremost. 

And watch what happens in your relationships when you become a woman that lives in overflow.

If this is something you want to work on with the accountability and support of another; schedule a call with me. We can identify the ways this shows up for you and come up with a game plan; together.