Your Nervous system Runs Your life - It’s time to master it

Your nervous system is the master communicator—it’s how your brain chats with your body and your body whispers back to your brain. It runs everything: thoughts, feelings, heartbeat, digestion, sleep, movement, mood.

It is the difference between staying stuck or going to the gym.

Overeating or stopping when you’re full.

Getting into that fight with your partner, or communicating effectively.

Having something take 5 hours to complete, or one hour.

Saying you’re going to do something, and actually doing it.

It’s not just biology; it’s the bridge between survival and connection, between fear and safety, between being stuck and being free.

When the nervous system is regulated, you feel grounded, present, alive. When it’s dysregulated, you’re either revving like a car stuck in high gear (anxiety, panic, tension, fear, rushing) or shutting down like a battery that’s given up (numbness, depression, dissociation, checking out).

So why does this matter?

I don’t know about you, but I want to be a master of my own life.

I want to have a say in what I choose to do and how I do it.

When we are walking around with un-regulated nervous systems, choice becomes really tough. We walk around the world getting down on ourselves for not completing that assignment, or doing things at the level in which we desire to do them. We do not follow through on our goals, and we begin to dis-trust ourselves and our capabilities.

We fail to take into account that when our nervous system is fried, there is no way we are able to stay consistent, follow-through, and accomplish our goals at the level in which we desire to.

Biologically, we are running at a deficit.

And your body & mind is screaming for some attention.

You see,

Your nervous system is like your body’s control center. It’s constantly scanning the world for safety or danger and adjusting how you feel and act.

• When it feels safe: you can relax, learn, communicate effetctively, think clearly, connect with others, and feel at home in your body. You have choice and are not avoiding emotions via substances, food, scrolling, etc. Your body and mind feel at ease.
  

• When it feels unsafe: it shifts into survival mode—speeding up (anxiety, tension, anger) or slowing way down (numbness, shutdown, exhaustion). You rush through tasks, lack presence, feel out of control, binge on substances as a coping mechanism, and your executive functioning skills plummet. You are unable to focus, let alone say how you really feel. You are operating out of fear and deficit. And do not know how to slow down or find your motivation again. (note the severe use of extremes here, because when dysregulated, all the system knows is extremes.)

These shifts aren’t choices you make consciously; they’re automatic. They’re your body’s way of protecting you. But if the system gets “stuck” in survival mode—often after stress or trauma—it can start to interfere with daily life, relationships, and overall well-being.

The good news is: the nervous system can learn. With practice, support, and tools for regulation (like breathwork, movement, grounding, or therapy), you can help your body find safety again. Over time, your system becomes more flexible, meaning you can handle stress without getting knocked off balance so easily.

In short: when your nervous system is regulated, you feel more regulated—mentally, emotionally, and physically.

If you are someone who feels like the life they want is just out of reach. or if you have been trying to ‘do’ the thing for so long now and have just not been able to embody that version of yourself yet, if you are someone that wants to be the best person they can be for their loved ones if only they had the (time, energy, space), then the key to unlocking this may be inside of you all along.

Screaming for some attention.

I am passionate about helping humans learn about how to map their own nervous systems. It has personally been one of the most empowering and validating tools I have. It has taught me what my personal markers are, when I need to regulate, and when I need to step back and rest. In doing so, I have been able to increase my capacity to show up grounded, alive, and present each and every day. It has curbed my numbing behaviors and has increased the trust I have in my ability to follow through. It has decreased my stress levels and enhanced my willpower to create a life I have dreamed of.

When you tend to your nervous system, and you tend to your whole life.

So perhaps you are not ‘broken’, or ‘lazy’, or ‘scattered’, perhaps you just haven’t yet learned how to tend to your own inner guidance system.

Food for thought ';)

With Love,

Kiara Rafael M.A, LPCC